So, being sexy is cool and all that, but once you get sexy, you’ve kinda got to DO something with that sexiness.
Enter picking up girls.
I didn’t start out wanting to be one of those guys roaming the bars and clubs looking for tail, but it ended up being that I felt like women didn’t leave me much choice: all the women I knew kept shuttling me off into the friend zone, so eventually I didn’t have a whole of other options besides just heading somewhere where I KNEW I could meet women who didn’t know me already and didn’t see me as a gender-neutral crying buddy or something.
Hec turned me onto some good ways to learn how to pick up a girl, and pretty soon I was off to the races. No more thoughts of losing my virginity to a hooker anymore (no joke, I seriously considered that at one point).
What I found out was that there are these basic tenets you really should follow if you want to be any good at picking up girls.
- First, you’ve got to know what you’re after. Most guys go out and just talk to women directionlessly with nothing but a general aim of hoping that somehow one of those women will end up in their beds at the end of the night. Come on, guys. It doesn’t work that way. You have to know what you’re after if you’re going to steer a girl in that direction.
- Second, you’ve got to lead women. This one was the hardest for me, because I sort of used to just waiting for people to do things on their own. I HATED having to lead. Hec gave me a pretty hard time about that; he called me a log who just sat there waiting for other people to push him. He said I needed to become the lumberjack. I didn’t exactly want to cut girls down, but I got the hint: you need to be the one ACTING and pushing and guiding, not the one sitting there lifelessly waiting for something to happen.
- Third, you’ve got to move things really fast. This one was also kind of hard for me, because I kind of like to be able to relax and take things at a “natural” pace. What I realized though is that there’s no such THING as a natural pace! If you get used to showering in 5 minutes, a 45 minute shower seems waaay too long. But if you get used to showering in 45 minutes, a 5 minute shower seems waaay too short. When you get used to keeping things moving, you capitalize on girls’ attraction while they’re still warm for you, instead of losing them later on like I always used to do.
- Fourth, you’ve got to make a move. This one SUCKED at first, because I really had to force myself into doing this. But you HAVE to kiss a girl and start touching her. Otherwise, how can you do anything? What you have to do is just swallow that fear and do it anyway. Then, when you do that, and you start kissing girls and making your move more aggressively and assertively and a LOT sooner than you usually do, you get used to doing it and it even becomes fun.
- Fifth, you’ve got to ask girls to go somewhere alone with you. I guess you could have this one as four and make a move as five, but I don’t know if the order really matters. All I’ll say is, if you like a girl and you want to pick her up, you’ve got to PICK HER UP! So you’ve got to ask her to go home with you, or you’ve got to go home with her, or I guess find a bathroom somewhere (I’m still building up to that one though).
After learning all of this stuff, let me tell you, my success at picking up girls went crazy. Well, maybe not crazy, but it’s getting there 
Hope you find this useful!
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