One of the mistakes I made a long time ago was that I tried to get girls by being really nice and friendly… and I kept ending up in the friend zone. Girls would tell me I was a great guy but they just didn’t think it would work out between us… and then they’d go date some guy they’d end up breaking up with a month later and coming back to me crying about it. As if there was ever any chance of it working out with THOSE guys instead of me. It really sucked.
On the verge of just throwing my hands up and saying I’ll never figure this out and going and joining a monastery somewhere, because screw it, girls just don’t make sense, I met Hec, a guy who pretty much changed my life forever. The guy made an impression — he’d always introduce himself to people loudly, since no one ever seemed to understand “Hec” as a name: “My name’s Hec. H-E-C.” Hec liked to brag about how he had no idea what to say to girls, but they still went to bed with him anyway. And you could feel it just talking to him. The guy had inescapable coolness, sexiness, and charisma seeping out of his pores.
So I learned from him. I spent time studying resources online on how to be a sexy man. I did everything I could to change how women perceived me.
And I found a few things I’ll share with you that I think can help you on your journey toward learning how to be a sexy man that women are drawn to as well:
- Expressions are more important than words. Using sexy eye contact and sexy smiles are WAY more effective than TELLING a girl she’s sexy. It’s no contest, even. I used to go about it all wrong by trying to use a lot of sex talk and tell girls how sexy they were. Now I just let my eyes and my mouth do all the talking. It works a LOT better.
- Talking less is saying more. Guys who talk too much are NOT sexy. Like, can you think of any sexy guy in the movies who talks a lot about how great he is? Or talks a lot about anything? No! You absolutely can’t. That’s because sexy guys are the ones women talk about as “strong, silent” types — they’re the guys who sit there and just SMOLDER. If you’ve been talking a lot, you’ve probably been going about getting women excited about you all wrong.
- Learn to use nonverbal attraction to make women want you. The guys who REALLY know what they’re doing do this. It was one of Hec’s secrets — it’s starting to become one of mine, too. If you can communicate with women without using words, they start to really, really dig you.
Anyway, that’s my primer in a nut shell. If you want girls, you want to turn yourself into a sexy man, and you want to get nonverbal attraction stuff down. Get all that covered, and it gets really easy.
Your pal,
E